Luckily, things turned out better than I could have ever imagined. He was kind, smart, normal...but a bit shorter than he said in his email(not that it mattered so much to me, because shorter guys are OK for me).
I discovered that his English was not anything like his emails, which always presented pretty flawless English. He did mention that he uses a translator to understand the full content of my emails but I had no idea that he really didn't understand that much English. I think he understood maybe 30% of what I said to him during the visit...which did cause more than a few misunderstanding.
As time has gone on with distance now separating us and multitudes of emails were exchanged, I wonder if trust should given to him or not. Lately, I have been thinking a bit more cautiously. Sure, he fires out the "I love yous" and all the nicety-nice things that girls love to hear via email, but there's some big holes. Huge holes that I can see now that time has exposed.
For example, I was thinking about how I saw a picture of a baby on his keychain and a ring around his neck. I recently had a chat with a Korean guy here in Toronto through a friend, and his "ring around his neck" was his wedding ring. But strangely, my guy gave the ring around his neck to me...he said he "found it"? When I saw the baby picture on my guy's keychain, he said it was his nephew. I later asked how old his nephew was, and he said he was 8? Very confusing...was the keychain not his, meaning that the car wasn't his and maybe his relatives or does that mean that he has a baby that he hasn't told me about? He did say that he really loves his nephew...plus, when people have kids pictures, they give these pics to everyone they know(those packages give way too many pictures). He swore that he was single. How can I know? Why was is that when he got a phone call when we were together, he had to take it privately...I have no idea what he's saying in Korean, so why wou ld it matter? And the latest event that I have analyzed to death is why he doesn't answer my phone calls. I didn't usually call him, but lately had been dying to hear his voice. I called, answering machine. I called a dozen occassions later and no answer...ringing and ringing. I have a phone card so it's cheap and no big deal. I emailed him and asked him on at least 5 occasions WHEN I could call so he can pick it up...no answer. On the last email, he said that he cancelled his phone some time ago and doesn't have another one yet. And get this, he said his reason for cancelling is because I don't call him...???? Yes, giant RED FLAG. Hmm, maybe he could have mentioned that he cancelled is phone when he cancelled it. Was this email an error in English...is he getting bolder and not using his translator?
Anyway, putting all this together, it really looks like he's a married guy with a kid. Truth hurts, but how can I really know? Actions speak louder than words, right?
